"You can't hang out like western girls, you can't wear shorts, you can't befriend boys unless we force you to sleep with one of our choice!" All because - you are respect of our family, caste, gotra, ancestry and the first born-long dead beings! All because, you are looked upon as a 'sanskaari-kanya', who should love only the one who agrees to marry you for huge heaps of dowry and treat you as domestic assistance, he's the one that we find for you, not because he loves you, oh he doesn't, but he'll fall in love with you. It happens. It will happen. If it doesn't, you have to 'adjust' because that's what you're supposed to do, that's what we expect of you. Divorce is such a western and unethical thing that it brings shame. Your own love interest is an unfaithful and disloyal person who will leave and divorce you, because love marriages don't last like arranged ones! So leave the man you love and marry the one we found for you. He's the right choice. How do we know? Well, we don't. Honestly, we don't. He may turn out to be an unapologetic bastard, but we/you can't do anything about it. This is what happened with us, our parents found a match for us so its our responsibility to find a match for you, doesn't matter if time has changed or if good single guys/girls are almost extinct, but we will make sure that we show off our wealth as much as possible to get you a good groom! The savings which would help us in old age, don't worry about them, we are buying a car for the groom because we won't 'waste' that money in educating you! Educating you will ruin so many years and waste so much time. The time of your youth in which you should get married. That's the marriageable age, isn't it?
These are few honest reasons given by parents to their daughters when they want to get them married, doesn't matter if the girl wants to study ahead, or doesn't want to marry yet. If you want to study further , get married and take permission of your in-laws. The whole hollow concept of tradition of marriages is a mockery, the peak of hypocrisy and height of stupidity in this otherwise claimed to be the most moral and righteous culture of entire world. Why are we so double faced in most sensitive matters? We don't want to educate our kids about sensitive matters at right age but expect them to understand everything. We want them to have their own life @ our conditions. We want to stop guys and girls from dating, but we can't stop rapes. We stop girls from celebrating valentines day in company of their boyfriends, but we can't assure their safety on streets while they're alone.We worship little girls as "devi" during navratras but don't hesitate to kill them in mother's womb. Last but not the least, I never understood this - We warn them from befriending a guy, but we want them to marry a guy she doesn't even know.
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